it's easier said than done, I know.

When we are consumed with wanting something so bad it's always difficult to face the reality of not getting what we want. This is especially true when it comes to relationships. We all fall into this trap, there is always that one person that you think you can't live without but really is that any way to live your life? basing your happiness on someone else? Personally I think it's too much pressure on the other person. We put them on a pedestal and get disappointed when they fall forgetting that they are human after all. 

Why are we constantly letting others be the source of our happiness? Is it because we want approval and we don't have enough faith in ourselves? If you're constantly having to prove yourself to anyone then is that person really understanding what you're about? I'm a firm believer that being with someone should be effortless. No one should ever feel like an obligation to another human being. 

I know it's not always that black and white and I agree in some respects. Compromise is a huge part of being in a relationship whether it's a relationship based on love or friendship, but one should always think about what is being compromised. You can compromise on small trivial things but never compromise your beliefs and what makes you who you are. 

I think the universe has a way of protecting us by giving us what we need versus what we want. We are so arrogant in trying to control everything that sometimes we don't really see the important things in our lives and all the amazing people that already accept us for who we are and love us no matter what. We become so consumed by the everyday bull shit that we forget  it's all eventually going to be gone. So I say fuck it! create your own happiness in life and the next time you think you MUST have something or someone stop yourself, leave it up to fate and see what happens.